I have always been tempted to ask this question. How do people see me? And especially my sexuality.
Yesterday’s post of my friend Morenike Adeyinka triggered some incidences that had happened to me and I just shook it off. It ain’t going so I decided to write about it.
Many of my friends back then do tell me I behave like a man. Aggressive,undaunted and unassuming. My Mum will shout Omolola stop behaving like a man. My Dad? Oh that man sees a man in me and many times will tell a story of all the things bought at my birth were boy’s. He has always seen me and trained me to behave like one!
Back then I am always comfortable with my shirt and trousers even right now I can count the number of iro and buba cos i dont even know how to tie them.
Make up? Oh Lord! I am just getting better at it. Hairstyle? I loved my low cut gorimapa style. I am just comfortable being me.
Until I got to Abuja…. Many incidences…
While at work We had a guest who was to appear for a programme in the studio and I was taking her there… I was in the front ,she was at the back and all of a sudden she playfully slapped and grabbed my butt! Oh Lord have mercy! I turned round in anger and asked what was that all about. She apologised that she was only playing with me. Erekere!
Another one told me she loved my low cut and my flats and my Shirt and was almost rubbing my chest. I politely pushed her away…. I was like kilode ke!
She then sent me a message for us to have a romantic dinner for two at Transcorp Hilton. I sat back. … romantic dinner for two… Ha! Do women do romantic dinner ni? I now asked a senior colleague and he started laughing at me calling me Bush girl. Upon all my gragra, I no ‘wake up’.
He took his time to tell me about being gay and signs they give to anyone that they are interested in. He said i looked like a woman man with my appearance.
How can I forget a call from a popular celeb gay who called me to say hello and asking if I would hang out with her. I politely turned it down.
One of these things made me grow my hair and tinker a bit with my ward robe .
It wasn’t a pleasant experience at all and last year one of them called to ask how am doing and if I still wear my low cut. I was very happy to inform her that I have grown my hair o. She wanted to see that evening and I told her we have a special deliverance service at Mountain of Fire. I asked her to join me then we can hang out there after…. She didn’t call again!
Pray, as many of you that know me, do I look like them? I sure can never behave like them ke! Abi?
23rd of March 2016
I ran into her at the Abuja Airport International wing. She just came in from America. She was so excited to see me… I feign excitement too.She said her phone crashed and didn’t have my number again. I gladly gave her one and we were to hang out o. I hope she won’t hit my head when next we see . I gave her an abandoned number
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